When Reality Sets In

Reality has set in. Adulthood is here.

I’m single. I’m jobless. I’m officially out of school for the first time in 20 years. I’m job searching, interviewing and calling organizations back about offers and follow-ups. I’m looking for deals, making excel spreadsheets, and trying to find out how to get to where I want to be.

I’m clueless as to how thing will be in a few months, and it’s scary as all hell.

Reality has set in, and I don’t like it. I don’t like the changes that have happened and I don’t like not knowing where I’ll be in six months or even a month from now.

Adulthood. Not something I’m a fan of, but it’s a necessity.

Welcome to reality.


First Big Girl Job Interview

Well, 2.5 years later, and I’m almost done with my MSW program.

Oh, the trials and tribulations I have gone through these past few years…

My mother started nagging me back in January asking when I was going to start job hunting. With an MSW, if you want to get your ASW number, you have to wait until you get your diploma in order to request continuation of licensure hours, and the diploma doesn’t show up for at least a month or two after you walk across that stage.

So long story short, I waited for spring break to be over before I put in official effort applying for jobs. Within two weeks I was receiving a call back from one of the organizations, and one of the administrators was nice enough to notify me that the position I applied for was filled, although, there was a different position available still, that requested the same qualifications.

This ended with me having my first official job interview last week. I went in confident, and left confident, which I find to be rare with a position you don’t completely feel ready for.

I recognize my faults and where my strengths truly lie, and that in itself was good enough for me to walk into the interview with confidence that I would present myself as qualified for the position.

Word of advice: always go into the interview expecting the description online to not include all aspects required, as you will find out more details in person. You may recognize you aren’t as qualified as you originally thought, yet, don’t be discouraged, as you know you entered that room feeling that you are qualified with the descriptions they offered, and that’s what led you to the opportunity.

I left my interview recognizing where I could improve my skill set and increase my understanding regarding the services that are being offered in the area. I now know what I need to do to improve my chances for the next one, and that is a learning experience we all must go through.

Change is good

Following up on my last post, I have had a massive change of heart.

The person I was referring to I have been in love with for almost 3 years. Now, I’ve finally learned that the feeling I have towards that person will never be reciprocated and I’m finally okay with it.

I’ll always love this person, but I’ve learned someone you love may not be the one for you, although it is difficult, I’m finally okay with the fact that I will not hold them as the center of my universe for the first time in almost 3 years.

Changing this perspective is allowing me to live my life without holing this person as a factor in my decision making.

When you know, you know

You know your favorite place, your favorite season, your favorite food, your favorite singer/band, your favorite movie, and even your favorite person. 

When I say your favorite person, I am referring to your person who you know you want to be with. The person you’re willing to fight with, laugh with, take adventures with and love.

When you know, you know. 

Letting them figure it out on their own

I recently had a client whose child was born with a physical deformity. 

Self disclosure: so was I. 

The first meeting we had, we were able to build rapport in the fact that we have something in common, although it isn’t something the mother knows how to deal with, because she wasn’t born that way. 

I can tell she is worried, and to tell you the truth, although mine wasn’t a genetic effect, I’m still curious and worried if my children would be born with a similar deformity. 

The best advice I could give her was to let him figure out how to use his hands by himself. For now he’s so young he won’t be doing much, but when he gets older, he’ll want to learn how to do certain things and it might be different than most, but he will make it work the best he can. 

A parents biggest fear seems to be whether or not their child will succeed. When a change in physical appearance occurs, it’s easy to believe they are loosing the chance to succeed in life, yet, this just might be their gift. 

Practicing with your friends

Recently I’ve had a friend struggling with depression and severe anxiety, although not yet officially diagnosed, it was pretty straight forward to recognize the signs when talking to them. 

As a future Social Worker, and as their best friend, I found it pertinent to help them understand the importance of seeking and utilizing services from a Social Worker in their area. I assisted by searching the listings of LCSWs in their area, reading the profiles and then promoting the people I found to my friend. 

It was a great feat for them, as previous experiences as a child had not been positive, and yet they were willing to listen to me and my testimony of the Social Work field, and the positive benefits they can receive from seeking counseling from a fellow Social Worker. 

It was a proud moment for me as a friend to hear they leapt forward and made the decision to call around to find the next available Social Worker. Sending my friend the profiles helped to ease their mind, as well as being able to explain as a friend what benefits could be seen through talking to someone about their personal life struggles.

They informed me they had an appointment scheduled, and had many worries but would still attend the session. 

To help ease their mind I offered to call them before the session to remind them of why they had shown up in the first place. 

Today, this person went in after talking to me for a few minutes and called me afterwards letting me know how grateful they were that I helped them gain the confidence to see this Social Worker. They felt that it was a good fit and that there truly was no judgment behind the Social Worker they saw. It was great to hear that what I had told my friend was held true. 

Today I am proud to be a future Social Worker. 

When You Don’t Fit In

There have been many times where I go out in public and don’t feel that I fit in with the crowd that I’m currently in.

The other night, I agreed to go to a music show with a friend. What I didn’t realize was that I was going to be the odd (wo)man out. By odd (wo)man out, I mean I didn’t have tattoos, I wasn’t wearing all black, and I had no idea what the musician was singing because it was inaudible to someone like myself who doesn’t listen to punk rock bands, ever, except for that night.

It was one of those nights where after I walked in, I immediately said to myself, “I’m going to need a drink to survive this”. This isn’t something I say very often, but this time, I knew it was the only thing that would make the half naked fatter guy singing on stage more tolerable to watch.

This was an experience that was good for me because I branched out of my bubble, even if it was for only one evening.

Many times I am very willing to go to events which I have minimal connection to, besides a friend. I’ve gone to Greek festivals, watched independent films in other languages, and go to art shows with influences that I have never heard of.

I’m thinking of making a bucket list of things to do that are out of my realm of comfort.

I’m a person with a “plain Jane” attitude. I don’t typically take chances if I feel I might embarrass myself, I stick to the same few activities, and go to the same places because it’s comfortable.

Because of this, I know now, at almost 25 I need to broaden my horizons and explore even more than I have recently.