“Me Time” is Essential

My room mate and I were recently talking about how important it is to have time alone, away from people and places and things, and just “do you” I guess is what I would call it.

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To those who may not need it, good for you. But for those who know what I’m talking about, you know it is essential to have this time to yourself in order to ground yourself.

I usually do something I enjoy. For me, that is riding horses, it’s the one time I can just go do something and I get 20 minutes to myself (well my coach is there) and I get to just forget what’s going on in my life that is stressing me out.

I know, personally, I don’t care to live alone, but I will admit it’s also very nice to have the house to myself sometimes to just watch Netflix or take a nap and not feel like I have to be worried about another person. Watching what you want, when you want, without feeling bad is a nice thing.

Having my dog to keep me company helps, but I also don’t totally feel bad when I drop her off at my ex’s and get a day or two to myself.

I found it essential to make time for this earlier this year with everything going on, and I know I need to do it more often, but I always feel bad asking for time to myself, it just never feels right. But someone reminded me, it’s okay to ask for time off, it’s not a bad thing, it means you’re taking care of yourself. This could not be a more true statement.

I don’t think we take enough time for ourselves these days, were always rushing around to the next activity, and feel that we need to do it all. But we don’t. We need to remember we aren’t robots, and we can’t expect everything to just be done without a little personal care.

With work, school, extracurricular activities and family, theres not much time left to enjoy ourselves, by ourselves. Again, this fast paced society isn’t allowing us, or reminding us to take a break, without having to travel far to get away from it all.

How do you spend your “me time”?

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Control (Issues)

7482-Napoleon-Hill-Quote-You-are-the-master-of-your-destiny-You-canWe all have them, we all want to control what will happen with us, whether we be the cause or the reaction.

Working with children with Autism, baby sitting and watching those around me I’ve realized that we all have to control the aspects of our lives.

How do you handle a three year old who has severe control issues to the point where he will undo something in order to be able to finish on his terms and still continue to have a meltdown because of this? This is something I still am wondering myself. I find it odd that children this young have such issues.

I can understand not sharing with others because you weren’t taught to share, but I still am working towards understanding those children who really don’t understand why not playing with others is “not normal”.

Being social is a normal human behavior, and those of us who have to control our environment, limit the social happenings that would occur naturally.

I have friends who feel the need to control their lives down to the minute details, which is sometimes a way to make sure you feel organized, while with the children I work with, it’s inhibiting their social skills.

Controlling your schedule is one thing, controlling what others are doing when you’re interacting with them is creating a difficulty.

I’m really wanting to learn more about this control issue, and why people control certain areas.

The End of My First Year as A Grad Student

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Well it’s officially over, there, I said it, “I survived my first year of grad school”.
Except for the fact for my DSM final I heard that I misdiagnosed the one scenario I was most worried about, so we will see how many points I get for finishing it at least.
I also may have passed in my other final paper a little late, by late I mean three hours late, so not terrible but I won’t be waiting to the very last minute to do it again. (I always say that)

It’s been a whirlwind of emotions: happy, stressed, sad, freaking out, all the other ones I could possible imagine, but I can say I survived, and that I feel confident with moving forward.

This fall will be a start of a busy year, starting my internship, on top of classes and still working as much as I can.
I like what I do, working with children on the Autism spectrum. It’s been rewarding to see what I can do for those who need it the most.

A little advice to those who want to get a leg up in grad school: talk to your professors.
Get to know them, I know in a smaller program its much easier, but even asking questions in class makes sure they know you’re willing to learn and want to be there (even if you don’t that day, trust me we all have those days).
Grad school has taught me one thing: to stay in touch with your teachers and classmates. I’m glad I go to a smaller program because the students around me are understanding that life happens, and they’ve been a great support system through school and life, and thats more than I could ask for.